It gives weight to the theory that children can be guided by parents towards governing their own behaviour without punative consequences, thus creating a more humane character without using a hurtful or injurous lexicon.

Mr Haim offers parents a new language of decriptive feelings which release a child from guilt and worry usually instilled by a parents attempts at behaviour modification. As a mother of six children of varied age, I have really found this book helpful.

It should be read in conjunction with the books written by two members of Mr Ginotts parent research group, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, which offfer further examples and personal experience of some of the problems faced by parents.